I am the only Deaf member in my family. Hearing and Deaf culture are totally different. I had lots of hassles with my family due to lack of communication. Hearing and Deaf culture are totally different.
Hi, I am Milett and here’s my story of survival.
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Our family has always been in lots of arguments and fights mostly. This affected me a lot and put me in a tough position. Even a single simple mistake that I made – they turned it into the worst scene due to their misunderstanding and anger. They always put me in a difficult situation. Everyday I would feel pressured and out of control. They treated me in a negative way and didn’t respect Deaf culture. I have been through a hard time despite worrying and tension because of people’s harsh doings. I had lots of hassles with my family due to lack of communication. Sometimes if they seem patient enough to listenI would try to make them understand but they didn’t understand at all. My life has put me in an unstable condition. Every such difficult situation makes me unable to stand up. This makes me feel like I want to end my life and want to injure my hand and do something dangerous and I feel frustrated. It makes me feel pain inside. So I tried some ways to find out for help to solve my family issues from Psychologists, teachers, leaders and tried to explain to them my issues. They were mostly because of the difference in deaf and hearing cultures. Yet they didn’t recognise my feelings and pain and advised me to respect my family. I have had lots of difficulties throughout my life. Yet it never worked out. Sometimes I feel like ending my life… When I couldn’t take the frustration anymore I have resorted to dangerous steps like self-harm. I didn’t get support from any new friends I made. They treated me with jealousy. They gossiped about me, and ragged me. It is really too much for me. It kills my happiness.
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How my life changed into a better one?
I learnt that I don’t need to worry about being around my bad friends. It is better to avoid them. I chose to focus on my life, career and my work instead. I have some good friends. One of my friends advised me that life is important and there’s much benefits ahead in the future. This gave me a positive thought and I felt better about my life. My second worry was about my family issues. I feel lots of pressure from my family. I tried to avoid all of these. I found a way to distract myself by attending class, focusing on my dancing and doing my work. I keep myself busy to avoid thinking about all these troubles. I talk very less with my family. Doing these things helped me to reduce my stress. And I also used to think about my failures. I used to ask leaders and advisors for help. I understand now that failures lead to success.
Never give up, keep trying. No need to worry too much and take more pressures than you can handle. Just feel light inside and take it easy …learn the art of letting go… It is possible to be successful despite the condition you have. These thoughts are what taught me to change my life into a better one.
— Milett Medelene
Milett – Survivor
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